Valentine’s Day is a stressful time for many people. If you aren’t married or in healthy and happy relationship you likely don’t like to see Valentine’s Day coming, but why? Why are we so afraid of being alone on Valentine’s Day? Elev8 Blogger Javen Online discusses being single on Valentine’s Day and shares why it isn’t so bad after all.
Valentine’s Day is today and I know many are trying to figure out if they have what they need for that special person. Then there are those who don’t have to worry about that kind of stuff, because there is no special person to celebrate V-day with anyway. So why do we let such holidays get us down as it pertains to our personal life? Maybe it’s because the certainty in who we are as people can be in question, or maybe the fact is, it does take someone else to validate who we really are.
I want to challenge you to go beyond the thought pattern of needing someone to validate you. I think it’s important to rock your life your way with you in mind – not someone else. Now you may think that sounds selfish – and I would agree. But you can’t do for others what you haven’t done for yourself. So, yes, sometimes it’s OK to be selfish, evaluate what is going on in your life, and what you need to do to make yourself a better person. A better you will attract a better people in your life.
Consider the following the next time you want to find or be that funny valentine. First off if you like what you see say it. If you like who you are be it. If there is something about yourself you don’t like, change it. If there are things about that special someone you don’t like, accept it in a way that is respectful. You don’t have to accept everything that person does, but you can accept who that person is with respect to his or her decision about his or her life.