Cheating is no longer a taboo but a career opportunity.
Vh1′s Love & Hip Hop definitely resurfaces this new fact.
Joseline Hernandez is definitely the new poster child. Apparently, the former Miami stripper star has several arrests under belt, including charges for lewd and lascivious behavior (aka prostitution), along with battery charges. Now her new claim to fame is being the other woman on “VH1′s Love & Hip Hop Atlanta”.
When questioned about her actions all she could say to hiphopgossipsite.com was the following:
No. I didn’t know about Mimi. He didn’t say anything about being in a relationship. He pretty much told me, ‘I have a baby momma,’ but Stevie has how many baby mommas? Four? So I didn’t think of anything like that. She was just a baby momma. To me, she still a baby mom.
Rielle Hunter writes a whole book about her exploits with John Edwards and even makes light of her actions.
Rielle writes in her book “What Really Happened: John Edwards, Our Daughter, and Me.”
Love does evolve you and encourage you to behave differently. Was he in love with me? That night began our frequent extended phone conversations, usually four hours in length . . . He said he found me to be so refreshing and couldn’t believe how easy I was to talk to.
She described “Johnny’s” wife as a “witch on wheels,” “crazy” and “venomous.”
Hunter blasts Edwards’ marriage to Elizabeth, who was suffering from breast cancer as her husband cheated on her. “He needed this safe place. Somewhere in the midst of our talk, long after I realized how far off the rails his marriage was, and for how long it had been that way, something happened between us,” she writes.
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What is wrong with these people? Do they enjoy the potential of sloppy seconds, thirds or in some cases fourths?
I once watched reality star Jesse James being interviewed on Nightline and was struck by the fact that he negated his role by pointing a finger at his mistress. He ended up cheating with LA Ink’s Kat von D. It should be noted that Kat von D was cheating on her partner Motley Crue’s Nikki Sixx. Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon called out her agent husband Mike. Shaunie O’Neal produces a show a show that openly talks about sports groupies and calls them out on camera. Evelyn Lozada of VH1′s The Basketball wives even confessed to cheating with Tammy’s ex -husband.
Mistresses have always held a certain fascination in American life, especially when it comes to famous and powerful men. Presidents Franklin D. Roosevelt (Lucy Mercer), Dwight Eisenhower (Kay Summersby) and John F. Kennedy (Judith Exner, Marilyn Monroe) were alleged to have strayed outside the boundaries of their marital vows. Many other men who lead public lives have been outed as cheaters, including Michael Jordan, Ethan Hawke, Rudy Giuliani, Bill Clinton, John Ensign and David Vitter.
What about the women? Are the mistresses truly in love? Are they looking for their 15 minutes of fame and whatever income they could generate as the result of their involvement? Did they give any thought to the possible fallout, or did they give a lot of thought to it? And do their actions create the possibility that other women may emulate their behavior and look upon being a mistress as a career path?
If you look at them in a broad context and examine their personality traits and their psychological baggage for lack of a better term, what’s common with these women is that they’re typically not happy women. They have an ax to grind for something that their father did to their mother, or they were abandoned, or they hold no regard for the value of a family. Selfishness and narcissism are common qualities.
There are also issues of entitlement and narcissism when a famous woman feels that it is appropriate to pursue a relationship with a married man or attached man. They go about justifying it by telling themselves that, “She is not on the same level that we are. You can do better.” When it comes to these high-profile mistresses, the spotlight cast on them rarely results in apologies or regret. She negates the sisterhood of women that once honored the belief that “if he had a band he was someone else’s man”.
Like most human behavior, people don’t always realize or understand why they do the things they do. But one common belief about mistresses is that they gravitate toward men who have power because they’re held back by society from getting any of their own. That belief has been tempered somewhat in modern times by the shattering of glass ceilings in many segments of society. And while Woods clearly is in more of a position of power than the women he cheated with, Sandra Bullock is an A-list star while her husband is at least a few letters below her.
Fame and influence are the end result of what is driving our society. It doesn’t matter what they look like. If they have achieved something, they’ll find groupies to follow them around. A lot of women still feel their only chance to get close to power is for power to put his arm around them. And that’s what we need to change. The mentality that improper actions do not equal an instant payday. Those things are against common decency.
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Joseline Hernandez & Rielle Hunter Make Cheating The New Career Opportunity was originally published on elev8.com