“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Being able to forgive is not an easy thing to do. I believe God intentionally programmed it to be a challenging act, because in the act of forgiving, we are being forced to participate in an exercise we don’t like to do…self-reflect. However, in doing this, we are eventually liberated from the pain that consumed us, making more room for God to enter the cleared space and develop us to become stronger Christians.
Going through this exercise forces us to have to face our hurt, embrace our hurt, express our hurt and….the hardest part of all….release our hurt. It is in the release that we find real happiness and liberation. Now, how many of us can say we have ever done this? If we have, how often? Maybe, once or twice?
The reality is, we tend to carry around more hurt than we release. That was my story years ago…boy could I hold a grudge. I mean, if you said or did something wrong to me, that was a wrap….the door to a relationship was shut, never to be reopened. And, folks who have been in my space for longer than 5 years can attest to that. I have truly grown in how I handle hurtful situations. Although I don’t make it to the release stage in EVERY situation, it is two or three times more where I do than I did not. The difference is found in praying and remembrance.
In developing a stronger prayer life, I am reminded that God’s grace is given to me through His forgiving me for my many sins. As I say, “Don’t cast a stone, you are not ready to receive”…meaning, we ALL have fallen short, made mistakes, are even doing something that God doesn’t approve of right now…so, how dare we not make a sincere/deliberate attempt to forgive someone for hurting us? That is clearly the definition of hypocrisy!
So, I encourage each of us to take a moment to pray to God and your only request should be, “God, show me where I am failing to release a past or present hurt. Forgive me for holding on to it. And, bless the person who is attached to it, so that we are both healed. Thank you for the liberation. In Jesus’ name. Amen.”
Get ready for your breakthrough and new found/never before experienced happiness and peace.
Walk in faith; live in love.