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Summer has been thought of as a fun time of the year. When we think of summer, we think of barbeques, family reunions, beach, amusements, weddings, falling in love and the list goes on.

Summer is also the time of year when we can pull out some of our less cumbersome wear. My favorite summer item is sandals! I love seeking out what I believe to be unusual, statement making footwear.

We all have our special wear, and our own independent taste around what we feel looks good on us. It really isn’t anyone else’s business when it comes to our clothing or footwear selection.

As I look around however, I am wondering if we are going too far. Have some of us lost our sense of what is appropriate.

Starting with the CIAA, I have been really concerned as I look around at how some of us are showing up to life. Making the decision to go to the store, someone’s home, an event etc., with no regard of how we are presenting our wears is concerning.

Is it fair to make decisions about someone just based on what we see, no, not at all? But the fact remains that how we come to the situation and how we are put together, makes a statement.

At the risk of sounding old fashion, there is still room for modesty. 1Timothy 2:9 provides us with a model to consider as we present ourselves in society. Simply said, “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.”

Self-expression and independent artistry in our attire is a beautiful thing, but when it borders on a misrepresentation of who we truly are, I think it bears reconsideration.

I have always thought it interesting that employers had to have dress code policies. When you think about it, why should anyone have to tell us what is appropriate? Our mirror should be giving us a heads up.

Perhaps we are attempting to lure someone’s attention in our attire, is our exposure what we want to be our first sentence, or do we offer much more value that we may not get the chance to share because we showed up in a way that was disconnected from who we really are.

For me, there is nothing more attractive than a man that is well put together. No particular fashion, just thoughtful in his approach. Women, presenting themselves in a way that represents the beauty that lies within her soul, makes a statement that is not easily refuted.

Asking ourselves as we prepare to leave our homes, “is this the message I want to take with me?” could help us either go forward with confidence, or encourage us to turn around and go back to the closet.

If we are going to dress like we are in a video or on a stage, should we not be smart enough to seek an agent? Why let all that go to waste? I’m just sayin!

Tanya is an inspirational speaker and writer living in Charlotte. You can friend her on Facebook or email her at Read more columns by Tanya Wilson.

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